Deconstructing Church

Writing my way to an inclusive and affirming Church

United … but Together?

Can we ever be united if it means leaving people behind?

As I have been reflecting on recent weeks, and the discussions around embracing diversity, I keep coming back to the idea of unity. How can we ever find unity if we invite so many voices to the table? I can almost begin to understand the gatekeepers who want to only make decisions with those who agree before the discussion even starts.

But how can we ever learn from eachother in those circumstances? How can we ever hear fresh perspectives, find new ideas or make effective change?

There is a tendancy for the majority to stand together and the minority to be apart. The majority then make the decisions, have the loudest voice, hold all the power. If this inherent power dynamic is denied, that is a huge problem. And it so often is.

In the topsy-turvy kin-dom of Jesus, the unity would be WITH the minority. The majority would stand WITH the minority, as one. They would raise their voices as loud as possible in SUPPORT of the minority. They would be doing whatever they could do REDUCE the power dynamic.

Yet so often we just want to cling on to where we are, what we have, the status quo. There is a fear, and a sense of threat, that comes with relinquishing it. Those who are demanding change must be unreasonable to expect such a sacrifice of us.

Yet the cost of not moving towards the minority in unity, is that the minority continues to be marginalised while the majority carries on regardless …

Yes, we have awareness weeks, inclusion initiatives and legislative developments. But until hearts change and everything is infused with true intent, it will all be lip service and performative actions.

Jesus didn’t think very highly of those …

Peace be with you

2 responses to “United … but Together?”

  1. Are we prepared to listen to the other- those in the majority – so we seek to prepare the ground for unity? Furthermore are we prepared to change our language to allow those outside to be able to engage effectively? Thank you for your continued comments.


    1. Thank you for your really interesting reflections. I know many marginalised groups feel they have to do so much of the moving already, why should they have to do more? Yet dialogue is two way. I don’t have all the answers but will continue to mull … thank you for your continued engagement!

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Hello, I’m Rebecca! I am a neurodivergent cishet woman living with Long Covid. I am a qualified and registered Music Therapist, and a Tutor. My specialist interests are faith, spirituality, music and social justice (including safeguarding). I write when I feel like it and have the ‘spoons’. I co-lead the online faith community The Ordinary Office, and write for various blogs, books and resources as required.

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